Leave me Breastless is a Blog dedicated to helping all those brave women out there having gone through breast cancer, look and feel fantastic with their new chest.
I was a 35 year old mother of 2 young children when I was first diagnosed with breast cancer. Just 2 weeks after my initial diagnosis, I had a mastectomy of my right breast. Then 6 months later I decided to have a preventative mastectomy of my left breast to rule out any possibility of breast cancer recurring and for my own personal comfort. I have chosen not to have a breast reconstruction – a choice I know is deeply personal for all women.
If you have chosen to stay breast free or with one breast, I am passionate about helping you find clothes and a style that make you feel great about yourself! My passion for this comes from an empty place I found myself in post surgery. Not only was I still dealing with the very recent reality that I had cancer, it dawned on me that life had also changed in many other ways. There was certainly part of me that was feeling a loss of femininity, but I also found myself completely and utterly lost when I needed to get dressed. With one breast or none, I really felt my options were limited. It was so frustrating for me – as someone who always cared about looking nice in clothes – that I couldn’t find anything to wear!
I started to search for websites like this, but I couldn’t find a thing. The only mastectomy fashion that I could find were sites that were either directed to more mature ladies or which showed the prostheses always being worn and no other option. I knew personally that these would make me feel frumpy and unattractive. I wanted to be able to have options at all the mainstream shops – I just didn’t know how to do that yet.
So as I slowly recovered and the reality sunk in that my body had changed forever, I knew that this was also going to affect the way I dress forever. I thought “No, I’m never going to be able to wear a V neck again” and “strapless is no longer going to be an option”.
But guess what? I would never have to wear a bra again and I am now one of the few people who can successfully pull off a backless number!! I realised that it was the same as any other body changing life experience – like the changes that happen when having a baby or gaining or losing a lot of weight. You just have to adjust your thinking and your choices and find a solution to the problem, not wallow in self pity.
So here I am 3 years on. I like to think that now I have the hang of dressing for a flat chest with the options of putting in my prosthesis when I feel like it. I don’t profess to know everything and still find myself from time to time nearly in tears in a change room with 10 unsuccessful items around me that I thought might be okay. I am still learning and finding my way and just as each person’s body and personal experience with losing their chest will be different, so too will your journey to find new fashion. All I know is that I know more of the do’s and don’ts than I did at the start of my journey.
This Blog is so meaningful to me because it mattered to me when I lost my chest and it matters to every woman who has and will go through it. I want to make your life easier transitioning from breast to no breasts. And I want you to know that I, and hundreds of women around the world, know and understand what you’re going through just trying to get dressed in the morning. I want to be there to help and support you every step of the way of finding the new, fabulous, feminine, you!