Wow! So much can happen in a week and another reason why I don’t prewrite my blogs. Sadly, but for the best, my beloved Ma passed away on Monday. She was unwell and it was time for her to go. No one likes to see someone they love suffer and we were relieved for her passing as she was removed from pain and could finally be with everyone who has been patiently waiting for her on the other side.
But it’s funny, despite the fact that you have accepted that their time left on earth is coming to an end, nothing actually prepares you for the sadness you feel when that person finally goes. I was lucky enough to be surrounded by very dear friends when I heard the news and could be comforted in their arms before having some time alone to process and reflect on my loss.
It has shone through exactly how determined and focused my Gran was. Obviously, it meant something to her to turn 100 and when she had reached her goal, achieved her milestone, she was ready to go. It just goes to show how important the power of positive thoughts can be in any situation. She could have given up the fight 6 months ago and no one would have blamed her – there must have been something within her driving her to her target.
It can be similarly said in whatever situation you are dealing with in life, that your mind has the power to drive you in whatever direction you allow it to go. If you are defeatist in your approach to something, you will no doubt fail, but if you keep your mind positive and focus on winning whatever battle it is that you have, you will have a greater chance of success.
During my battle with cancer, I could have taken the path of negativity. I was young. I had lost my breast. It could have sent me spiralling. But I had so much to live for. I was lucky that I was naturally blessed with a ‘glass half full’ personality and I certainly wasn’t going to let this get the better of me. I was not going to let my children be worried about losing me. There is no way cancer was going to win.
But I get it. Sometimes it is so hard to be positive when things around you seem to be going wrong one thing after the other. Life unfortunately is full of battles. We need to try as hard as we can to be resilient and pick ourselves up after hardships and carry on.
I am so proud of Ma for wanting to reach her 100th birthday and for succeeding. I believe I have inherited her fighting spirit and I am grateful that I had it when I was sick. We had a truly beautiful celebration of her life on Friday and she will forever be part of me. Here is a very special memory I have with her on my wedding day.
Some of you might be going through your battle with cancer now and I genuinely feel for what you are experiencing. It is not fun. But don’t let it win. There are some days that are so hard to fight through, but your life is worth fighting for and there will be light at the end of the tunnel. I encourage you all to take on the fighting spirit that Ma has just released and set your sights on whatever you wish to accomplish.
Please forgive me this week for not having much in the way of fashion to show you. My Aunty did take these lovely photos of us at the wake in the gorgeous Country Road top that I featured in one of my earlier blogs. It worked perfectly on my breastless chest for a very special occasion.
I promise to have more fashion to share with you next week.
Have a wonderful week!
I am breastless and beautiful.
Love, Gen x